parfaitepeau:

no.

Would you expect someone who has lost their hair to cancer to photoshop hair on? would you expect a woman who has lost a breast to cancer to wear a padded bra? NO.

so why should the scars from mental disorders be hidden. you are wrong. im sorry but you are wrong.

I get what you’re trying to say, I hope you’ll listen to what I have to say. Expectations and actualities are not the same. I did notice you’re talking about expectations, and so the question becomes why should those who self harm be expected to censor themselves or photoshop out their scars, etc.  I think the answer lies in the fact that most people are asked to stop doing something or limit their activity of something to a particular area usually if it’s a danger to 1. themselves (and this person who is asking is close to them and are concerned for their welfare) or 2. a danger to others / putting the lives and well being of others at risk. This could be comparable to smoking/non-smoking sections that are around in various places. There’s a time and a place to smoke, and people ‘expect’ those who smoke to smoke in smoking sections. That’s because although they are free to do whatever they want to their own bodies, they have no right to harm or cause any sort of injury to other people, in the way of  putting them at risk of secondhand smoke and lung cancer. People still expect those who are trying to fight off an addiction to nicotine, for example, to still be courteous of other individuals and not inflict any sort of harm upon them. What does this have to do with self harm ? Like so, even though you are 100% free to do as you wish with your self-harm, but you should know or acknowledge that when you put them out in public , as much as you may feel like a warrior for doing so and not being ashamed, you could be harming other people in the process-in the form of triggering them. It’s expected that you would be kind enough to step outside of yourself for one second and not wish any of the pain that you felt to fall, on someone else again. This is just a societal expectation, not a reality. The reality is, some people just don’t give a fuck. Other people view their scars as ‘battle wounds’, which, there is nothing wrong with that. However, those that do should understand that if you (general) don’t care whether or not you (general) hurt or trigger another individual then you are in no position to complain about people being upset/angry/furious that you are showing such disregard towards others. So people get mad at those who are so stuck on themselves that they fail to see the pain they may be inflicting upon others, and proceed to tell those other people to just look away or proceed to justify the harm they’re inflicting on others by saying ‘anything can hurt people’. Statistically speaking the probability of someone getting triggered by a cancer survivor who lost all their hair in chemo, although not impossible, the probability is very low, especially when held in juxtaposition to the probability of someone being triggered by seeing self harm. Could the walker, walk around the person who is smoking in a non-smoking area, probably, they could, but that doesn’t make the person who is smoking a great person for being self-centered enough not to want to conform to societal rules and regulations for now so that others don’t get hurt. I know there’s this IDGAF, ‘all about me’ etc attitude that people confuse with confidence, but it’s not. You’ve become confident in yourself when you know that you don’t need your scars to remind you that you’re a ‘warrior’ , you just know you are. You’re confident when you’re no longer defined by the battles you have already been through, but you’re willing to look forward and take on any battle that may lie ahead, whether difficult or not, because you already know you’re a warrior. The reason scars or anything that could potentially cause harm to another person should be considered is not for the sake of the individual who have suffered through it all or are, it should be considered for those who do not want to fall back into that cycle of pain. It is my belief , that a legitimately good person does not try to harm others, and if they do, they try to correct that hurt they cause in some way shape or form. A legitimately good person knows that there is a time and place for things, and they try their best not to hurt others  even if they are in pain.  No one should be made to feel ashamed for their self-harm and truly, if you want to see pictures of your scars as a reminder of how far you’ve come take all the photos you want for your personal usage, but the second you make it public, know that you’re pictures have probably triggered a few people into hurting themselves, especially on tumblr. The second one acknowledges that, they can either continue or find ways to fulfill their desires while preventing injury or other people from being triggered, more specifically, in this case.  In the case of Felice’s recent photo (which I think this is about) , it would be easy for her to fulfill her goal/desire (to sell the latex bodysuit) and not cause others harm by triggering them into self-destructive habits (self harm) by even rotating her arm inward towards her body (or photoshopping). The reality of it is she doesn’t. The expectation is that she would so she wouldn’t hurt others. Tell me, should people be able to hurt others? or, how is it that you rationalize that a person is not being hurt if they fall into self-destructive habits after being triggered? or…do you not think about? Blissful ignorance doesn’t keep other people from getting hurt, imo.

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